Seek the mind of a God about a situation, what God calls the other person, what is God’s opinion about the situation. The Bible warn us not to judge because God knows that we use our carnal mind in judging. Hosea 1:2 When the LORD first began speaking to Israel through Hosea, he said to him, “Go and marry a prostitute, so that some of her children will be conceived in prostitution. This will illustrate how Israel has acted like a prostitute by turning against the LORD and worshiping other gods.”What we think about a situation and what our eyes shows us is not always the true reflection of things. We judge because of what we heard, what we saw but the person could have repented already and they could be in the perfect will of God.