Sex and money are the two most causes of divorce or conflicts in marriages. The painful part is when it happens to Christians who have a guide on how to conduct their lives. Hebrews 13:4 Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.
Be faithful to one another and do not deny each other else sin will enter marriage. You cannot end the day in a quarrel mood and take it to the bedroom. If you end your day the wrong way, it’s impossible to start it well and if you start it the wrong way, chances are you’ll end it bed.
Proverbs 5:15-19 Drink water from your own well- share your love only with your wife. Why spill the water of your springs in the streets, having sex with just anyone? You should reserve it for yourselves. Never share it with strangers. Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you. Rejoice in the wife of your youth. She is a loving deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts satisfy you always. May you always be captivated by her love.
Marriage is a blessing from God. Never use your strong points to advance your issues. Always pray for your marriage and your children. A worried wife or husband leads to prayer less life.
Matthew 19:8 He said to them, “Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so.
1 Corinthians 7:14 For the believing wife brings holiness to her marriage, and the believing husband brings holiness to his marriage. Otherwise, your children would not be holy, but now they are holy.
Most marriage divorces are a results of couples not valuing differences. I might not want to go shopping and you might not want to seat and watch the game or go to the stadium with me but that’s says we are different and should not cause a fight. It is very important to value differences and embrace them for a peaceful relationship. When you always agree as a couple, one is irrelevant.
More important is understanding your partner’s spiritual gift. When you married a prophet, you wouldn’t expect him or her to be found everywhere. They have a more restrictive character, want to be alone at times for them to hear God. When you married a pastor on the other hand, he is more welcoming, might attract people towards him because of the counselling role that he must do. What about an Evangelist, they are mobile in their duties. You must expect that you might sleep alone most of the times if you are not part of evangelising with him because he will be going out to capture the lost soles.