Let go of self when you enter into marriage.

1 Corinthians 7:3-4 Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.

We have guidelines that governs our marriages. Don't be taken by worldly behavior. Once affection goes, be interested to know why. We have accepted our afflictions as normal and back it up with rights. Matthew 19:4-6 And He answered and said to them, "Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning 'made them male and female,' and said, 'For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'? So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate."

Don’t you wives realize that your husbands might be saved because of you

Proverbs 18:22 The man who finds a wife finds a treasure, and he receives favor from the LORD. Today marks 15 years of our marriage and it’s because of her that I am a born again Christian.

1 Corinthians 7:14-16 For the believing wife brings holiness to her marriage, and the believing husband brings holiness to his marriage.

Honor the marriage bed and keep it pure.

Sex and money are the two most causes of divorce or conflicts in marriages. The painful part is when it happens to Christians who have a guide on how to conduct their lives. Hebrews 13:4 Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.
Be faithful to one another and do not deny each other else sin will enter marriage. You cannot end the day in a quarrel mood and take it to the bedroom. If you end your day the wrong way, it’s impossible to start it well and if you start it the wrong way, chances are you’ll end it bed.

Proverbs 5:15-19 Drink water from your own well- share your love only with your wife. Why spill the water of your springs in the streets, having sex with just anyone? You should reserve it for yourselves. Never share it with strangers. Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you. Rejoice in the wife of your youth. She is a loving deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts satisfy you always. May you always be captivated by her love.

Marriage is a blessing from God. Never use your strong points to advance your issues. Always pray for your marriage and your children. A worried wife or husband leads to prayer less life.

Valuing differences in marriage

Most marriage divorces are a results of couples not valuing differences. I might not want to go shopping and you might not want to seat and watch the game or go to the stadium with me but that’s says we are different and should not cause a fight. It is very important to value differences and embrace them for a peaceful relationship. When you always agree as a couple, one is irrelevant.

More important is understanding your partner’s spiritual gift. When you married a prophet, you wouldn’t expect him or her to be found everywhere. They have a more restrictive character, want to be alone at times for them to hear God. When you married a pastor on the other hand, he is more welcoming, might attract people towards him because of the counselling role that he must do. What about an Evangelist, they are mobile in their duties. You must expect that you might sleep alone most of the times if you are not part of evangelising with him because he will be going out to capture the lost soles.

Stay blessed.